Wedding do's & don'ts

[Blackkat13]

My sister is getting married in about 2 weeks, give or take a few days. I keep getting asked about do's and don'ts so if you all have any wisedom please post. I'll pass it all on to her, everything from good groom/mom dance songs to everything else. Plus I also found out and have to learn some dance called Solider Boy, no clue on it. She's being nice and going to also play the Time Warp, which I'm scared to do in front of my family. I have a small list that a few friends sent me, and she keep in mind stuff about the hall, brides maid dresses, and good ideas on about food items. Please Help:??:

[mszee]

I would think it's a bit late to ask 2 weeks before the wedding?

At this time, only specific questions can be answered...I mean, you guys probably already have hall, music and so on?

My advice...after slow dance for groom/bride, groom/mother, bride/father (traditional in America), let DJ or band play mostly fast energetic music with very few scattered slow dances...once guests (especially young ones) sit down to slow music, they never get up, then they eat, get sleepy and go home...keep them on their feet if you want fun going...good DJ/band will know what to do. Also, ask whoever is playing to play familiar to most music...people respond better to what they know/remember best - sort of nostalgic moments...

Believe it or not, Bon Jovi, Springsteen and ABBA work the best...nostalgia...

Another advice I would give, if they haven't done so, tell bride and groom to take a couple of dance lessons...will help them when they are nervous to dance in front of everybody at the wedding.

Otherwise, dunno what particular questions you had in mind.

Ask away...if not...

Best wishes to bride and groom and good luck!!!

[Pudding]

I've been to some real shit weddings in my time. Cheap tacky crap where the bride & groom get pissed and make a complete tit of themselves.

I suggest you watch a few episodes of Bridezillas and then you'll get an idea of what to do and what not to do.

Pud :twisted:

[LucyK!]

I've been to some real shit weddings in my time. Cheap tacky crap where the bride & groom get pissed and make a complete tit of themselves.


How very graceful :?

My advice, check that the wedding rings fit! When my aunt and uncle got married my uncle had really big, chunky, fingers (he's sadly no longer with us but to give you an idea he looked like Meat in Black Dog, only without the explosions :p )...my aunt tried to carefully ease the ring onto his finger but it just wasn't happening, their wedding video ended up with her using all her strength to shove it up his finger :lol:

[Pudding]

My advice, check that the wedding rings fit!

Me and Mrs Pud got married in Barbados and I didn't realise how much fingers swell up in the heat and it took the best part of 2 minutes and a gallon of holy water before the ring went on. So that's good advice Lucy.

Pud :twisted:

[~Helen~]

It's also a good idea for the music DJ at the reception to know the name of the bride! Went to a wedding a few years ago where not only did the DJ repeatedly interrupt songs (I think we counted 9 interruptions within one song) but he also shouted across to the groom on the other side of the room "eh - what's your mrs called?" having earlier said something along the lines of ... "welcome to the reception for Paul and errr errr ummm... his lovely bride!"

Oh and get someone other than the official wedding photographer to take photos...lots of photos...of just about everything and anything! Flower arrangements, the rooms, table decorations, food....! Disposable cameras on the tables for the guests to use is always a good idea. It's amazing the things you can forget years later and the memories that can come back from a single photo. Relaxed wedding breakfast / reception photos are just as important as the posed / staged ones (along with my dad, I'm the unofficial wedding photographer amongst my friends and relations...so have learned this from experience - because they know me, they're more relaxed with me (or other guests with cameras) than they are with the official photographers and this shows in the pictures, plus guests often unknowingly capture more of the mood of the event...and these pictures tend to be treasured for years to come...even the fuzzy ones the kids at the tables have taken!)

Good luck with the wedding and I wish your sister all the best!

[AndyK]

Just tell them to relax and enjoy it ... it's their day so they should be the ones enjoying it most.

[mszee]

Basically a lot will depend on the vendors hired for that day (hall people, caterer, DJ, flowers, etc)...if they are good and professional...bride and groom won't feel any kind of pressure.

[The Flying Mouse]

:twisted: Here's a nice little gimmick I do when I play weddings........

The bride and groom are obviously very busy and VERY in demand at the reception, and there isn't the chance to get to see everybody who has come to the reception.

It's a good idea to have the DJ stop the music at an apt moment and call for attention.

Ask everybody in the room to come to the dancefloor and form a big circle with the bride and groom in the middle.

Start the bride at one side of the circle, and the groom on the other, and explain they are to follow each other around the circle clockwise (or anti if you want lol) and to greet all their guests in person.

Play an appropriate song and start them on their way.

Don't know if it's big in America, but here in England i'd go with Congratulations by Cliff Richard (without any prompt from me, I guarantee that the whole crowd will be clapping along together by the end of the opening chorus) .


It might all sound a bit cheesy (including the song) , but believe me, i've done plenty of weddings and trust me, cheese is GOOD.

It's another moment of putting the spotlight on the happy couple, and it also makes all the guests feel part of the celebration.


Make sure you don't leave it too late in the night to do this as you don't want the music stopping once the beer has been flowing, the party starts proper, and people start hitting the dancefloor.
Organization after beer is not easy and does not flow well :wink:


If you DO do this, and the DJ you tell the routine to wants to use it again, tell him I want 15% :mrgreen: :p

[mszee]

Sounds good but we do it differently in America...

All guests are called into the dining hall after cocktail hour (ceremony-cocktail hour-reception)...whatever music is chosen is playing...guests are asked to stand up and come forward...and bridal party starts entering with special introductions from the DJ...first parents of the bride, then parents of the groom, then best man/maid of honor, bridal party: bridesmaids and grooms, and the last they announce something like...for the first time as Mr. and Mrs. such and such...and bride and groom come in then and it goes straight into their first dance...something like that...

Never heard of the song above so not sure about it...

[~Helen~]

Never heard of the song above so not sure about it...

consider that a blessing :twisted:

[mszee]

consider that a blessing :twisted:

I trust you...if I don't forget I will listen to it though on youtube when I get home...here it's usually something uptempo but I can't think of one...usually DJ/Band knows what to do...it's done at almost every wedding...

[allrevvedup]

consider that a blessing :twisted:

Zina, consider your sanity saved...well for now

[mszee]

Zina, consider your sanity saved...well for now

That bad, eh? I will let you know what I think if I will find time and/or remember to listen to it from home...

[The Flying Mouse]

:twisted: The British party staple :yep:

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Believe me, even the most cynical party goer turns into a grinning idiot and claps along when you play this at the right time.

[Blackkat13]

Never though about the camera's, but I have been to wedding where people had them out. BTW my sisters boyfriend loves Superman so my sister got Superman garder belts.
I should tell my sister choose a ML song for the dollar dance since they last long. :D

Normal songs at a wedding, ones I hear over and over again.
White Wedding (anti wedding song)
Taking care of business (aligator dance)
The Stroke (watch American Graffiti or Soul trains version)
The Chicken Dance (were weird)
The Love Shack (only seen people at 1 wedding know this dance)
The Stroking song (can't think of it)
Celebartions
We are Family (mom hates the song)
lots of Journey, Bon Jovi, & tons of Country at this one.

[Pudding]

They could do a dance sequence.

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Pud :twisted:

[Monstro]

Cheers Pud, shite week and that made me laugh!!!!!!!

[Siobhan]

:lawl: :lmao:

[mszee]

:wtf:

I didn't just see THAT...I should drink less really...

[Blackkat13]

My sister was talking tonight about the Cha Cha slide, and haveing to get a list of what alchol to order since the grooms parents are paying for that. Another thing is they paid the hall off 2,000 dollars for the food and hall and it's all on a credit card. :roll:

[Monstro]

:wtf:

I didn't just see THAT...I should drink less really...

Drink more, won't seem unreal then lol

[mszee]

Drink more, won't seem unreal then lol

Well...my first thought was that Pud looks awfully heavy in this video...I am glad I didn't post THAT last night...LOL...

[mszee]

My sister was talking tonight about the Cha Cha slide, and haveing to get a list of what alchol to order since the grooms parents are paying for that. Another thing is they paid the hall off 2,000 dollars for the food and hall and it's all on a credit card. :roll:

Go for hard liquor...most happy people faster!!! :lol:

[~Helen~]

pud! thank you! been having a really bad day today following some bad news earlier - so that vid really made me smile - first time all day! so much appreciated!

and blackkat (sorry, i don't know your real name) at the end of the day, the most important thing is that your sister and her fiance are commiting to spend the rest of their lives with someone that loves them and that they love, it is their special day and nothing else matters but their committment to each other. they just need to enjoy the day, not worry about anything else, if anything does go not as planned it is there to make it memorable and to laugh about and add to the enjoyment of the special occasion. just make sure your sister is happy and doesn't have anything at all to be worrying about, and she can just concentrate on enjoying herself and on what is the most important thing.

[mszee]

Her name is Amanda

[Blackkat13]

Tonight is the last bacherlotte party's and the brides maid that is throwing it is going to make my sister where a veil that has condoms glued to it. My sister don't want where it or play the card game her bride maid has in store for her since it is don't do the card take a shot. I'm not going since I don't drive and it's 20 miles away, kinda wanta go but don't drink so it'll be kinda dull for me. My sister don't want to do anything like kiss another guy, where pantys around her feet, excange bras, give out her number, and those are the tame ones they get more worse.

[Pudding]

Seems like your sister is smart and justs wants to have fun but not behave like a slut.

Pud :twisted:

[LucyK!]

I'd rather a silent wedding reception than play any of the songs mentioned in this thread! :shock:

[Blackkat13]

I was hanging out w/my sister and her boyfriend and we were at the maid of honors house with her family. We all had a nice big helping of penis cake. That was something a little different and I brought home to my parents a ball each. Yeah, Pud my sister can be smart at times but she does do alot of dumb things at times to. She said the best time of the night was wearing the vale with condoms on it and trying to glow bowl.

[duke knooby]

I'd rather a silent wedding reception than play any of the songs mentioned in this thread! :shock:

or, you could get mr king to sing you a song.. while playin the guitar :D

[Battybarb]

Pud that video is bloody brilliant...so funny..

[Pudding]

I'd rather a silent wedding reception than play any of the songs mentioned in this thread! :shock:

Good call.

Me and Mrs Pud decided to have a 70's fancy dress disco theme party with a rolling buffet and only invite people we liked. That was half our extended families uninvited, no sit down meal with boring speeches and no f'king Cliff Richards. A few people did get a bit uppity about our decisions but since we paid for the whole thing, as they say he who pays the piper calls the tune.

Pud :twisted:

[LucyK!]

To hell with everyone else, if you don't want someone at your wedding then you don't invite them, it's your special day, end of (joint decision, obviously! :p )

Pud I'm dying to see your wedding album! :p

[mszee]

Yeah, I thought it was a very cool wedding too...

Pud...:pics: ???

[~Helen~]

Even if you do invite everyone people will still get uppity about something. At my cousin's wedding, one of my aunts was getting irritated because people she thought weren't as close relations as she was, were sitting closer to the top table than her. But my cousin had gone to a lot of trouble to make sure everyone was sitting with people with whom they would get on well, with the family in no particular order closer to the top table than the rest of the guests. I never care where I'm sitting and am grateful that people have chosen to include me on what is 'their' day, and I think such pettiness is unfair and unnecessary. And as you say, you're paying for it, it's your choice who's invited (and where they sit!)

[LucyK!]

I really think shite to anyone who has a problem at a wedding...it's the special day of two people and it should be perfect for them, whether that be in a room with everyone they've ever met or alone somewhere. It's their day for them to remember, not to be spent pleasing everyone else

[AndyK]

Sinple answer to the seating plan plroblem ... don't have one. Apart from the "top table" let the other guests sit where the hell they want and with whoever they want, that way if they don't like who they're sat with they've only got themselves to blame.

[LucyK!]

:up: Saves money on making place cards too! :p

[mszee]

Sinple answer to the seating plan plroblem ... don't have one. Apart from the "top table" let the other guests sit where the hell they want and with whoever they want, that way if they don't like who they're sat with they've only got themselves to blame.

Can you imagine havoc that will occur if you do that???

[AndyK]

In my younger years I worked for a firm who filmed and produced wedding videos, as such I saw some 25 weddings a year for about 5 years. A fair number of these didn't have a formal seating plan for the reception and the only chaos I saw was the confused look on people's faces when they saw there was no seating plan, once they'd got over that then it was all fine and everyone sorted themselves out.

[Deb]

Wow A+L you both have a lot to say in this thread and seem to have put a lot of thought into it :D:-P:lol: :cool: runs and takes cover :-P

[LucyK!]

Guess it depends if any of the guests have had arguments recently :p

[LucyK!]

Wow A+L you both have a lot to say in this thread and seem to have put a lot of thought into it :D:-P:lol: :cool: runs and takes cover :-P

I'm very impressed that this thread reached almost 2 pages long before anyone said that! :up: :p

[Deb]

That's because i've only just read it ;):-P

[mszee]

I'm very impressed that this thread reached almost 2 pages long before anyone said that! :up: :p

Read the thread again...LOL...

[AndyK]

Impressed? I'm disappointed that the obvious jokes were missed for so long ... you lot are slacking! :lmao:

[Deb]

I'm not slacking :lol:

[LucyK!]

Just spotted it Zina :lol: Now we don't want this going off topic, do we, so..other people's weddings!!!

One of the best weddings I've been to was that of my aunt and uncle I mentioned. My uncle had been married before and had been with my aunt for a good ten years so it was more of a 'grown up' wedding than the big dress and fancy reception. The service was at a register office then we all piled over to the pub belonging to another of my aunt's, stayed there for a few hours then went back to the happy couple's house and fired up the BBQ...it was really casual and so far from anything I'd have thought of, but for a couple of their age it worked wonderfully :up:

[mszee]

I am not slacking...I am just very busy being tactful and looking for a huge picture hat...

[Deb]

I don't do tact very well do I A+L :lol: soooo whens the big day????

[LucyK!]

I think I'm gonna go finish doing the gloss in the bathroom...less sticky than this could get! :lol:

[AndyK]

I don't do tact very well do I A+L :lol: soooo whens the big day????

What's it matter, you'renot invited :p :lmao:

[Deb]

LOL I'd already worked that out by an earlier post :lmao: saves me buying a pressy and having to find something to wear :-P

[LucyK!]

Hoooold on...if Deb doesn't come who's gonna do the bootleg?! :lol:

[Deb]

Ahhh so there is a wedding ;)

Think thats what he means not invited but has to hold a bloody camera all day :twisted:

[AndyK]

Well you do it so well :))

[Deb]

next you'll be saying I have to do the seating :-P

[AndyK]

:lmao: Hadn't thought of that one.

[LucyK!]

Ahhh so there is a wedding ;)

Hypothetically...who's gonna do the bootleg?!

[mszee]

Alright...I'll say something nice...

Lucy, I would throw that jewel instead of the ocean - at you...:mrgreen:

That should replace rice very nicely...

[Deb]

I feel a poll coming on :lol::-P

[AndrewG]

Where's Warioloaf when you need him.

[mszee]

Where's Warioloaf when you need him.

He has run away from this thread as soon as he's seen the title...LOL...he is too young for this...scares him...

[Pudding]

Simple answer to the seating plan plroblem ... don't have one. Apart from the "top table" let the other guests sit where the hell they want and with whoever they want, that way if they don't like who they're sat with they've only got themselves to blame.

That's exactly what we did. We got the obvious question from those who couldn't figure it out "where do I sit?" :tard: "on your arse and I don't care where" came the reply.

If people can't put aside their differences for one day for the sake of the bride & groom then they don't deserve to be there in the first place.

Pud :twisted:

[SamCat]

I got my revenge on a very snooty aunty by sitting her on a table with my now ex husbands heavy rock band friends!! She hated it but her husband had a wail of a time lol!!

[angelica]

I got my revenge on a very snooty aunty by sitting her on a table with my now ex husbands heavy rock band friends!! She hated it but her husband had a wail of a time lol!!

Emma ... lol:lol:

We did'nt have a seating plan ... people just sat were they wanted ... no arguments. We did'nt have the traditional top table either ... we sat where we wanted to too!

We had a lovely lovely day:D

[Blackkat13]

Today my sister's boyfriend was told he didn't get the loan. So my sister had to go to my grandma and she gave her the 1,000 dollars to pay off the rest, so everything's still on schedule at the moment. I'm going to check into the throw away camera's and see how much that will cost, if it's not to much I'll get them. Oh yeah, my sister bought Superman garter belts, since her b/f is a huge Superman fan. Wonder when they are ~~~~ed if they'll fly faster then a speeding bullet.

Were also going to do up a somewhat seating chart since it's like 8 to 10 people at a table. I think we'll have a weird persons table as well. Were thinking we will have some uninvited guests as well. Another thing is fights, we might have a few of them as well since it's a open bar. Good thing is we can send them to the store across the street since they are open 24 hours or to the bar just a stone throw away. So anyone want to take bets on what may happen????

Does anyone have any ideas on how to word a wedding program so it will sound all lovely dovey, and nice sounding. I'm not coming up with anything good other then the normal "Today 2 hearts are becoming one" and stuff like that, I'm not to good when it comes to these things. I have till the 19th to get these darn things done since the 20th is the big day. I have another dumb question is wearing a white wrangler top and black jeans good to wear at a wedding? Since I hate/cring at the thought of wearing a dress unless it's my wedding. I haven't wore one since I was a kid and then I was forced into wearing some bad/tacky dresses and still haven't gotten over them.

[~Helen~]

Attire depends on your sister's wishes and as for the rest of it, try googling for some wedding organisation tips. Confetti.co.uk's supposed to be a helpful site. I know it's English and primarily a shop, but it has helpful info about planning and organising stuff for a wedding - see the 'Weddings' & 'Celebrate' tabs at the top :-)

Good luck, how long to your sister's big day now?

[mszee]

I agree...dress code is usually determined by organizers of the party...it appears to me a bit casual for the wedding what you want to wear...

As to programs...google it and you will come up with just about everything "wedding" possible...

I don't know if you're going to announce wedding party in the program but if you do, it's always nice to put something in memory of those who can't be there if there are close relatives who passed away...goes down well...

[LucyK!]

I don't know if you're going to announce wedding party in the program but if you do, it's always nice to put something in memory of those who can't be there if there are close relatives who passed away...goes down well...

That's lovely, I've lost two uncles over the past 3 years and the thought of them not being at my wedding is just crushing but I think I'd want them recognising as family members, even though they can't be there...

As for dress code, please please check with the happy couple Blackkat!!! Earlier this year my cousin got married in Cyprus, really quiet ceremony with just the bride and groom, both sets of parents and my cousin's young son. Beautiful location with gorgeous weather and everyone wore cream...another of my uncles and his wife (we're a big family!) were travelling at the time and scheduled their trip to be in Cyprus for the wedding as a surprise for my cousin, didn't check the dress code and on her photos is a beautiful beach, everyone in cream, and the surprise guests stood on the end in black :shock:

[mszee]

So, Lucy, now you know how you can honor those who no longer here...it is really really sweet, especially if theoe are your parents relatives...they will be touched...

[LucyK!]

It's certainly a lovely idea...my only worry would be that if you do that for a special someone who's no longer with us, you then have to mention everyone that should have been there and isn't, on both sides of both the bride and groom's side of the family...could turn into a memorial service!

[mszee]

It's certainly a lovely idea...my only worry would be that if you do that for a special someone who's no longer with us, you then have to mention everyone that should have been there and isn't, on both sides of both the bride and groom's side of the family...could turn into a memorial service!

yeah, if you go with that kind of thing...then for sure...still nice though...usually people honor grandparents like this and in any event...just really close relatives and yes, on both sides...

[AndrewG]

In Holland there is a saying: "Don't marry before you are 40." :))

[AndyK]

Surely a simple toast to "absent friends" would allow everyone to think of the "special people" who are missing from the day without turning it into a memorial service? I've seen this at many weddings I've attended either as a guest or when I was working and I think it's a simple, subtle and touching way of doing it.

[LucyK!]

Yeah I think so too, naming names leaves the risk of missing someone out! :?

[mszee]

Toast works too...she just mentioned the program. In program people often put this part before or after the wedding party mention...Americans sometimes can be slightly different...LOL

[mszee]

In Holland there is a saying: "Don't marry before you are 40." :))

And NEVER is soon enough as far as I am concerned...LOL...

[AndrewG]

Just to freak everyone out. My friend got married 19th July (big do, £22.000) and has annulled her marriage this week. :shock:

[mszee]

Just to freak everyone out. My friend got married 19th July (big do, £22.000) and has annulled her marriage this week. :shock:

Was she married to Chris Kattan??? :shock:

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,406442,00.html

[AndrewG]

No, at this present time I do not have friends in the Showbiz circle. (not counting Facebook/internet friends of course ;-) )

[Pudding]

Surely a simple toast to "absent friends" would allow everyone to think of the "special people" who are missing from the day without turning it into a memorial service?

I was best man to my mates wedding (obviously as you don't do these things randomly) and I hadn't a clue who most of the brides family were (incidentally the brides sister is now Mrs Pud) When it came to reading out the cards one was slipped in from 'Uncle Ken', unbeknown to me 'Uncle Ken' had died 2 weeks prior and I didn't find out until I read it. You can imagine the looks I got and I was like a startled rabbit in the headlights of an oncoming truck not knowing what to do next, so I asked for a round of applause for Uncle Ken :))

So a simple toast to absent friends is a bloody good idea. So make sure Andy your best man knows who is or isn't dead when/if he reads out any cards.

Pud :twisted:

[Blackkat13]

Well, the good thing is my sister came over today and got the programs all done, just need to print them out. Were not doing up anything like in memory of anyone since no one has passed away, but it's a nice idea if someone did. I like the "Never marry before 40" that made me laugh and it gives you lots of time to search for the right person.

[mszee]

Were not doing up anything like in memory of anyone since no one has passed away, but it's a nice idea if someone did.


I honestly think it's the best solution - better than programs or toast...nobody dies!!!:lol:

[~Helen~]

In Holland there is a saying: "Don't marry before you are 40." :))

Why? out of interest?

I have a bet with a friend actually - she says I will get married before 40. I say I won't (whether at all after having previously been engaged and it all going horribly wrong, is another matter!). If I'm right she owes me a tenner. If she's right, I owe her a tenner. But I figured if she's right i'll have more to worry myself with than the tenner!

Just to freak everyone out. My friend got married 19th July (big do, £22.000) and has annulled her marriage this week. :shock:

Oh. My God. Scary expense! And what a shame it only lasted such a short time :-(

[AndrewG]

Oh. My God. Scary expense! And what a shame it only lasted such a short time :-(

Yeah, well strange, though I am not sure what has gone on here in detail. Probably best not knowing. I was chatting with her tonight and apparently the bloke she is married to will not allow her to annull the wedding now so they are going to suffer a divorce which will take up till July 2009 to sort out!
:shock:

Can't help feel sorry for my friend's little boy (bloke was already not his real father). He must be confused I would have thought? I guess it's all normal these days, but in my opinion not ideal! :-(

[Pudding]

Were not doing up anything like in memory of anyone since no one has passed away.

You should do one anyway, as it would get people looking around all confused wondering who's dead :devil:

Pud :twisted:

[Blackkat13]

You should do one anyway, as it would get people looking around all confused wondering who's dead :devil:

Pud :twisted:

That's mean!:shake: but I love it :lmao:

[The Flying Mouse]

:twisted: I find the idea of spending too much on a wedding pretty dumb myself :wtf:

If you've got it, great, but don't splash out cash you haven't got just to try and impress people.

Just doesn't seem a good way to start a whole new future together as man and wife by plunging into debt :nuts:

[Blackkat13]

My sister we are thinking has spent/up to/close to 15,000 and it's ready to go. She wants the perfect wedding, and is now realizing were all right as far as cutting back on the spending. All I can hope for is it will be long and lasting, since the guy wants to always make her happy.

I watched Roadie last night and the line about, "My best friend & sister are about to get married..." I was like dang, that's weird and true.

[Cathie]

I hope they have a wonderful day, I'm sure it will be worth all the worry and expense. Of course, the most important thing is that I hope they will be happy and enjoy their life together x

[Pudding]

My sister we are thinking has spent/up to/close to 15,000 and it's ready to go. She wants the perfect wedding, and is now realizing were all right as far as cutting back on the spending. All I can hope for is it will be long and lasting, since the guy wants to always make her happy.

Most weddings are about THE day and the bride (moreso than the groom) have an idea of what they want that day to be. For some it's once in a lifetime and if you can afford it and save then why not spash out, if you're poor then obviously it makes sense to go cheap. It's whatever works best for the couple.

I got married in Barbados, had an honeymoon at DisneyWorld, had a church blessing when we got back with a lot of trimmings then a 70's fancy dress party at what was then the brand new Huddersfield Town stadium. We saved like crazy for 2 years and don't regret spending a single penny.

There's nothing dumb about spending money for that one day in your life that you'll probably never repeat again.

Pud :twisted:

[daveake]

:twisted: I find the idea of spending too much on a wedding pretty dumb myself :wtf:

If you've got it, great, but don't splash out cash you haven't got just to try and impress people.

Just doesn't seem a good way to start a whole new future together as man and wife by plunging into debt :nuts:

What's "too much"? It's up to the people involved to decide how much they want to spend, and if they want to spend lots that's their own decision.

Spending "to impress" is daft, in weddings as in anything else. Not spending because they're too tight, and thus missing out on the day they wanted, is also stupid. The only sensible thing is to decide what you want and can afford, and then go for it.

Of course, in some cases, what they can afford and want is an afternoon in KFC (http://www.idkwhat2say.com/2008/03/now-thats-love.html) :lol:

Dave

[Monstro]

Doing what's important to the couple is what counts, whatever they want to do is ok, after all it's all down to what they want the day to be that matters

[Pudding]

There's no real pressure anymore for anyone to get married, so you could save a bundle by not doing anything.

Alternatively you could have a Gypo's (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=gypo) wedding if you don't have a lot of money.

http://cache.daylife.com/imageserve/0fkj0Nk9TT95V/610x.jpg

Pud :twisted:

[~Helen~]

In my case, if I find anyone patient enough to want to marry me (and to be trustworthy and sincere enough to mean it when they tell me they want to spend the rest of their life with me - unlike the last two gits I had serious relationships with!) the most important part for me will be marrying someone I love (and that loves me back) and makes me happy. Having already planned a wedding that never happened, and realised just how much stuff there is to do and organise, I would hate for all of that to get in the way of the focus of the occasion, which is the marriage itself. By all means, as it sounds like Pud has done, i'm all for celebrating it as much as possible...but I still think that in the long run the only important thing is that you're committing to spend the rest of your life with the person that you love. I hope that doesn't sound like I'm getting at anyone here because that's not what I mean to do, I'm just putting across my opinion...and at the end of the day it's the wedding of the two persons getting married, and not anybody that does or doesn't attend, so do what you want. and if that's to hold the reception at KFC or the Ritz, it's up to you. :-)

[Blackkat13]

Well, there is a Mc Donalds across the street and the bar is next to it as well as a party store attached to the Mc Donalds, and that's across the street from the hall. Me and a few others have plans on going over there for some ice cream or a shake just to be different. I went to my cousins a few years back and after the wedding everyone went to Mc Donalds even the bride and groom were there and had a big mac. Funny thing was the dinner was 2 hours away and everyone was hungry, and it was like you got to be kidding me everyone just pulled in and it was totally unexpected. So the full wedding party, and guests all had a bite before the dinner, and we had a few stares as we all sat together and made jokes about if we meet before.

[mszee]

There's no real pressure anymore for anyone to get married.


Pud :twisted:

You know what is funny? I've noticed that this might be very true for British...but in America marriage is still full on...

[Blackkat13]

Has anyone ever made one of those Ribbon bouqet's?????

As far as marriage goes I'm simple go to Vegas, White Chapel, and get hitched by Elvis, simple as that. :D

[mszee]

Has anyone ever made one of those Ribbon bouqet's?????

As far as marriage goes I'm simple go to Vegas, White Chapel, and get hitched by Elvis, simple as that. :D

That is one of the coolest weddings I can think of...

[The Flying Mouse]

In my case, if I find anyone patient enough to want to marry me (and to be trustworthy and sincere enough to mean it when they tell me they want to spend the rest of their life with me - unlike the last two gits I had serious relationships with!) the most important part for me will be marrying someone I love (and that loves me back) and makes me happy. Having already planned a wedding that never happened, and realised just how much stuff there is to do and organise, I would hate for all of that to get in the way of the focus of the occasion, which is the marriage itself. By all means, as it sounds like Pud has done, i'm all for celebrating it as much as possible...but I still think that in the long run the only important thing is that you're committing to spend the rest of your life with the person that you love. I hope that doesn't sound like I'm getting at anyone here because that's not what I mean to do, I'm just putting across my opinion...and at the end of the day it's the wedding of the two persons getting married, and not anybody that does or doesn't attend, so do what you want. and if that's to hold the reception at KFC or the Ritz, it's up to you. :-)



:twisted: Quoted for truth :up:

The end of the day, it's the MARRIAGE that's important, not the celebration.
I would be just as happy to go to the nearest registry office, get married, and then get the bus home to have our tea in front of the telly.

I'm sure Jo would have something to say about that :lmao:

I went to a CRACKING wedding last year which was not too OTT.
The bride and groom hired a hall, everyone brought alcohol, one of our friends brought her karaoke rig, and we all had a bloody good pi$$ up.

As a bonus, outside this church hall there was a kiddies playground.
Call me a bad influence, but it wasn't long before me and the groom were on the swings seeing who could swing higher :lmao:
There is footage of this, and i'm glad i've never seen it :lol:

[Blackkat13]

What no Merry go round, you could have playied who's going to hurl first. :D Sounds like fun.

[mszee]

What no Merry go round, you could have playied who's going to hurl first. :D Sounds like fun.

:lmao:

[Pudding]

I would be just as happy to go to the nearest registry office, get married, and then get the bus home to have our tea in front of the telly.

And is that what you are going to do?

Pud :twisted:

[Blackkat13]

That is one of the coolest weddings I can think of...


Everyone thought my sister would do something like that and I'd be the normal one with a basic wedding, guess they got us confused. :twisted: Besides only in Vegas you can have Elvis, Marlyn, James Dean, Cher, Joan Rivers, and the Rat Pack marry you. :roll: Plus they have the theme weddings as well like Star Trek, Mafia style, Western, Star Wars, or just the basic wedding, I think they even do UFO weddings as well.

[mszee]

Everyone thought my sister would do something like that and I'd be the normal one with a basic wedding, guess they got us confused. :twisted: Besides only in Vegas you can have Elvis, Marlyn, James Dean, Cher, Joan Rivers, and the Rat Pack marry you. :roll: Plus they have the theme weddings as well like Star Trek, Mafia style, Western, Star Wars, or just the basic wedding, I think they even do UFO weddings as well.

They do all kinds of fantastic things there...Yeah, this would have been a dream come true for me for sure!!! Hope when the time comes, you'll do something sufficiently cheesy and fun!

[Pudding]

only in Vegas you can have...Joan Rivers...marry you.

JOAN f'kin RIVERS...WTF? :wtf: Who in their right mind would want to be married by Joan Rivers :nuts:

Pud :twisted:

[Hypnobabe]

One of the best weddings I've been to was that of my aunt and uncle I mentioned. My uncle had been married before and had been with my aunt for a good ten years so it was more of a 'grown up' wedding than the big dress and fancy reception. The service was at a register office then we all piled over to the pub belonging to another of my aunt's, stayed there for a few hours then went back to the happy couple's house and fired up the BBQ...it was really casual and so far from anything I'd have thought of, but for a couple of their age it worked wonderfully :up:

My hubby and I did something similar, we married when my eldest was just under two weeks old, so I'd bought my red velvet wedding dress when I was seven months pregnant, and yes, it fitted perfectly! We went to the registry office in Cambridge, got married and then went looking for a pub for a drink... I think there were less than a dozen guests altogether... After that it was home to get changed, then round a mate's house for a Chinese, and I have to say the day was much better than the first one, which was the full Church do with the meringue dress, bridesmaids, full blown reception with first dance and speeches... Not only did it cost less than £250 total, but I actually remember everything and didn't get stressed out of my mind on the day...

I got my revenge on a very snooty aunty by sitting her on a table with my now ex husbands heavy rock band friends!! She hated it but her husband had a wail of a time lol!!

:lmao: Priceless!!

[The Flying Mouse]

And is that what you are going to do?

Pud :twisted:

:twisted: It wouldn't bother me in the slightest :shrug:

Think Jo might be in the mood for a party though :lol:

[Pudding]

Instead of a Vicars & Tarts party, you could have a Meat & Bonnie one. All the blokes dress as Meat (obviously) and all the blokesses dress as Bonnie from the 80's. You could get the DJ to dress up as Steinman :lmao:

Pud :twisted:

[Blackkat13]

Instead of a Vicars & Tarts party, you could have a Meat & Bonnie one. All the blokes dress as Meat (obviously) and all the blokesses dress as Bonnie from the 80's. You could get the DJ to dress up as Steinman :lmao:

Pud :twisted:


I have never seen a Meat loaf or Steinman dressed up person before. It'd be different but that's not something we see everyday if you go to the chinese theater in Cailforina your likely to see Sponge Bob, Superman, Batman, and Marlyn possing for pictures.

[Pudding]

I'm on about the guests getting dressed up.

Pud :twisted:

[~Helen~]

I have never seen a Meat loaf or Steinman dressed up person before

You haven't been to enough Meat Loaf concerts...or looked at pictures of some of this lot enough then ;)

[mszee]

Instead of a Vicars & Tarts party, you could have a Meat & Bonnie one. All the blokes dress as Meat (obviously) and all the blokesses dress as Bonnie from the 80's. You could get the DJ to dress up as Steinman :lmao:

Pud :twisted:

I think the only people here who would know about Vicars and Tarts party would be people who seen Bridget Jones Diary Movie...LOL

[Blackkat13]

MAn, my butt is dragging got 100 of the programs backs done at the moment and just starting the fronts right now. Then I have to re do it all over again from the beginning. My sister waited till 1:30 am to get it going she is staying the night and sleeping behind me since she has to get up at 7 to go and get her hair done for the wedding. Keeping with tradion she and her boyfriend can't see each other so that's why she is camping out behind me. I'll be lucky if I get to bed around 4 am this morning. So if anyone wants to chat or say do so since I'll be online for a bit :P .

[angelica]

Hope everything goes well with the wedding Amanda. Hope your sister has a lovely lovely day

[mszee]

Hopefully everything goes well and you all have lots of fun!!! Today and always!!!

[Blackkat13]

I SURVIVED! I made it through my sisters wedding, the chruch, the hall, the food, dancing, drunks, annoing DJ, and wanting to beat up the photographers who where getting in everyone's shot. Now I want to crash since I got the programs all done at 5:30 in the morning yesterday and been up today since 10 am. Hope you all had a good day to and wanted to smack alot of annoying people as well. I'll talk more when I have the feeling back in my feet and some much needed rest.


Let's see the photographers hit the Best man's parents car and left the scene in front of witnesses at the hall. Had 3 cops show up 2 and a half hours later to do the report. The DJ was a last minute one and didn't follow the songs my sister had laid out, or the stuff that was suppose to be down. Wanted to throw up after eating cake that had fondint frosting on it cause it was so sweet and didn't sit to well on my stomach. In all had a good time will post a few pics after I get some rest and all.

[~Helen~]

what an eventful day! but aside of a few things sounds like on the whole it went well! hope your sister and her new hubby enjoyed their day - looking forward to seeing the pics soon! :-) x

[mszee]

Well...all's well that ends well!!!

And now for some pictures???

[Blackkat13]

I shot alot but the damn photogragher guy keep steping in front of me but I did get 30 good pics on my camera & and good video. I also had to use my sisters camera so I have more and a friend of mine shot some on her camera so where all hoping between the 3 we have some good stuff.
Here's the links for the ones I did.....

http://i83.photobucket.com/albums/j316/blackkat132000/zmine/Picture001.jpg
http://i83.photobucket.com/albums/j316/blackkat132000/zmine/Picture002.jpg
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[angelica]

What lovely photo's Amanda ... thanks for sharing them

[~Helen~]

aw great photos - thanks for sharing!

[Blackkat13]

Wedding started at 3 but since my dad was part of it had to be up there around noon for pictures. The flower girl was up there as well and was out by 10 pm at night, no nap since the wedding ended at 4 the photographer keep taking pics for 2 1/2 hours. Plus my sister didn't get to go to the park and get the outdoor shots she wanted. Right now my sister and brother in law (still feels weird saying that one) are heading down south to Dollywood or to go to Ben & Jerry's factory for there honeymoon.

[mszee]

Thanks for the pictures!!! Next one is yours!!!

[Blackkat13]

One of my friends her and her mom got over 250 pictures and there is a slight bit of me in one. My aunt asked my mom today how much I lost and she thinks I'm 120. If I was that I would be skin and bones, maybe she has some really bad eyes.

[mszee]

One of my friends her and her mom got over 250 pictures and there is a slight bit of me in one. My aunt asked my mom today how much I lost and she thinks I'm 120. If I was that I would be skin and bones, maybe she has some really bad eyes.

You can never be too rich or too thin...LOL...

[The Flying Mouse]

You can never be too rich or too thin...LOL...

:twisted: I've just done a search online for the second half of this quote (I can't remember it word for word) , and although many places have the first half, nowhere has the second :shock:


It goes something like........

"You can never be too rich or too thin, anyone who disbelieves this has never been really poor, or really fat".


Weird that.

[mszee]

:twisted: I've just done a search online for the second half of this quote (I can't remember it word for word) , and although many places have the first half, nowhere has the second :shock:


It goes something like........

"You can never be too rich or too thin, anyone who disbelieves this has never been really poor, or really fat".


Weird that.

Which part of the quote you couldn't remember word for word?

You're, in fact, quoting the quote???

Copy and paste should have worked??? :?

[The Flying Mouse]

:twisted: I can't find any reference to the

"anyone who disbelieves this has never been really poor, or really fat"

portion of the quote online, although I do remember coming across the full quote some years ago in a book.


Although many quotes are often abbreviated, it's a little strange that the full quotation should be so hard to find online.


Copy and paste don't work because there's nothing to copy :shrug:

I've had to ad lib the second half as I can't remember it word for word, but it's words to that effect.

[mszee]

Here is a full quote then...

“A woman can't be too rich or too thin.”

Wallis Simpson, Duchess of Windsor

[The Flying Mouse]

:twisted: I've seen attributed to someone else as well.

The full quote being “A woman can't be too rich or too thin, anyone who doesn't believe that has never been really poor or really fat".

I can't seem to find it online though which is strange.


Anyway, I better shut up before I go even more off topic and have to infract myself :shock:

[Pudding]

I believe Nancy Reagan once said "You can never be too rich or too thin" that might be who you're thinking of :shrug:

Nancy also said "A woman is like a tea bag, you can not tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water"

Pud :twisted:

[mszee]

I believe Nancy Reagan once said "You can never be too rich or too thin" that might be who you're thinking of :shrug:

Nancy also said "A woman is like a tea bag, you can not tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water"

Pud :twisted:

:lmao:

If you were a woman whose husband permanently used your makeup...you would come up with even better quotes...

The original quote too thin/too rich is attributed first to Wallis Simpson...but who knows...but I've never seen continuation of that quote...

[Pudding]

The original quote too thin/too rich is attributed first to Wallis Simpson...but who knows...but I've never seen continuation of that quote...

Yes it was, but FM said he saw it by somebody else not that that somebody else said it first. And no, I've never seen a continuation of that quote either. Sometimes some people use a quote in part of a sentence and add their own bit to the end of it.

Pud :twisted:

[mszee]

And if they are Nancy Reagan...or Wallis Simpson...or even HOMER Simpson...it becomes a quote...

[Blackkat13]

I made up a video for family and friends, took me awhile to do it but it turned out really good.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RfyVuGLTRI

Sorry I haven't been on lately lost my uncle week and a half ago so been kinda busy with family matter's. I hope everyone is doing good, and having fun, am really lacking when it comes to news on here. Can anyone fill me in? Does anyone know why youtube's videos look like they are widescreen and can you turn it off?

[Monstro]

weddings do's or don'ts........bloody don't!!!!!!

[Battybarb]

totally agree with you there Michael......lol..unless your intended is very old and very rich...lol

[~Helen~]

I'm with the don't. Also don't believe people who say they want to marry you. And never agree to marry anybody. Saves a lot of money and a lot of hassel. End of moan. That's just my own personal take on life, obviously doesn't have to - and shouldn't -apply to all. I'm just miserable!! Lol!

Good to see you back and thanks for the vid! Hope you're ok! x

Edit: Vid is ace by the way, some great pics in there!

[angelica]

Lovely video and photo's Amanda

[Battybarb]

Sorry to hear about your uncle Amanda,love the photos and video ,everybody looks great..its nice to see you back on here,have been away for a bit myself so have missed a bit too..

[mszee]

Thanks for sharing, Mandy...

Was wondering why you're not around and whether you're coming back...sorry about your uncle but it's good to have you back!

[Blackkat13]

I hate being away from the boards and all, so I'll come and go and try to keep up. Hope yoou had a great turkey day.

[mszee]

I hate being away from the boards and all, so I'll come and go and try to keep up. Hope yoou had a great turkey day.

Pretty awful as sometimes happens with extended family...but hey...today is another day!!!

[MeatGrl1]

I shot alot but the damn photogragher guy keep steping in front of me but I did get 30 good pics on my camera & and good video. I also had to use my sisters camera so I have more and a friend of mine shot some on her camera so where all hoping between the 3 we have some good stuff.
Here's the links for the ones I did.....

http://i83.photobucket.com/albums/j316/blackkat132000/zmine/Picture001.jpg
http://i83.photobucket.com/albums/j316/blackkat132000/zmine/Picture002.jpg
http://i83.photobucket.com/albums/j316/blackkat132000/zmine/Picture003.jpg
http://i83.photobucket.com/albums/j316/blackkat132000/zmine/Picture004.jpg
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Those are great, thanks for sharing, that last one is so cute :)).

::EDIT::

Fab video :up: !!

[Rockette]

Definitely DO NOT allow your bride to take your young daughter home from the reception because she (child) is dog tired. And certainly DO NOT stay on, turning the reception into a stag night.

I really can't believe it and I saw it with my own eyes. Why bother go to the trouble of organising a surprise wedding, then getting blotto while your wife goes home alone on her wedding night?

Am I just too old-fashioned, or what?

[MeatGrl1]

Yeah that didn't make sense, if that was me I'd be feckin' annoyed !!!

Though you'd find out that characteristic before you'd marry or at least you'd think so :roll: !

[The Flying Mouse]

Why bother go to the trouble of organising a surprise wedding, then getting blotto while your wife goes home alone on her wedding night?


:twisted: Because if the groom goes home with her, he just gets in the way while she tidies up and does the dishes :p

It sounds like a great idea to me, who's up for it next year lads? :mrgreen:

[MeatGrl1]

:shock:... I don't think that'll sit too well with Jo somehow Neil :lol: !