How do u ask a guy out?? HELP!!!!

[Fallen Angel]

hey folks,
Im wondering if u can help me out here :?
I few months back Kirsty asked a guy who i was to nervous to see if he would go out with me. Unforunatley his answer hit me hard and didnt settle because of his reason for saying no. After a few months i realised that maybe i should give it a shot as hes now single once again. How do I ask him???
hugs,
F.A

[A Slice Of English]

If a girl has to ask a guy, that's usually a bad start straight off.

Generally, you don't "SAY" anything, you happen to bump into him at a club or a bar and you get talking. Don't proposition him as gys don't like to be tied down straight away.

Gently flow into it. Use evocative body language to let him know you're interested. If he doesn't respond then he's not interested or he's stupid. One or the other!

[black dog]

I don't think I'd have the courage to ask a guy out so I think a Slice of Good English's advice is quite good.

There's a few Chat Up Lines on Off Topic but most of them seem a bit dodgy but who am I to say. I'd just say nothing at all so wouldn't get anywhere.

Good Luck Fallen Angel

Shells

[Bigmomma]

get to be friends with him first, and if you still like his personality
when your friends then that would give you a good idea as to wether
it is worth being boyfriend/girlfriend or not after all what may seem a
good idea isnt allways so....hope this helps, it worked with me and
my husband, he is also my best friend, and the best hubby a girl could have :wink: good luck. :P

[shadow1000001]

get to be friends with him first, and if you still like his personality
when your friends then that would give you a good idea as to wether
it is worth being boyfriend/girlfriend or not after all what may seem a
good idea isnt allways so....hope this helps, it worked with me and
my husband, he is also my best friend, and the best hubby a girl could have :wink: good luck. :P


That is excellent advice :D

[Fallen Angel]

Thanks guys. Big momma we've been friends for approx. a year and a half.
Txt him last night and he sent me this poem:
Mountains may vanish. Rivers may dry.
U may 4get me but never shall i, so when ur lonley unsure wot 2 do remember im always here 4 u.x

After a birthday greeting from me to chris i also got this b4 i said night.
Am here 4 u allways. Just shout and I'll cum runnin.

At the end of the messages l8r on in the nite he started typing these 3 words that a girl wants to here. :)
Should i just let them pass over or think about it?? :?

hugs
Leeann
P.S Anyone understand that poem?

[Fallen Angel]

Thanks to Big Momma :P and of coure every one else I have built up the courage to ask him.
Tell U what he says!!
Hugs
Leeann

[Fallen Angel]

OH NO!!!
Got 2 nervous, now he doesnt understand the message.
HELP!!!!!!

[Tim]

No problemo.... I'm a guy... i was shy until i started with my school and became a teacher. Some tips:

- just be yourself (yeah, easy, but still, it is a trick)
- don't think you do things wrong, you do the things your way
(and, if there is something going wrong totally, like falling in mud orso.... just say you had prepared that and that is a part of your act :lol:)
- be interested in a honest way
- don't be cruel

- say good and nice things
(wow, i like your piercing or.... i like your coat very much, where did you buy it?)

Oh crap.... this more for a first date.... excuse me... okay:
- walk towards the person, start a talk
- ask the person if he (she) has a plan for...... (.... call a date)
- say that you want to do something fun and ask him/her if he/she wants to join you with that
(if he/she says no.... don't bother, lots of other people, see it as a victory that helpes you for the future)
- if he/she wants to join you, don't over react.

Well, hopefully this helps a bit

The Butcher.

[Fallen Angel]

I'll try.

[Fallen Angel]

He said he'll fone when he gets home.
How do i explain to him over the fone?? :??: :??: :??:

[Tim]

simple.... try it first into the mirror, sounds stupid, has helped me a couple of times.

Call him up, or if he calls you, just pick up the phone. Don't be nervous. He calles or you will call him so.... nothing to worry about.
Start a talk... like you are talking to girlfriends.

A conversation will start.

Well, now the door is open. Just ask him if he wants to do something with you, or that he would like to go out with you (to a bar, movie, etc).
If he says he don't know yet... no problem... try later again in the conversation.
If he says no.... don't be bothered or react shocked... just talk further and go on. If you close the call... then there is time for a breakdown.

If he says yes......... YOU ARE IN!!!!

Wish you all the luck!!! I will be thinking of you, please let us know how things worked out.

The Butcher.

[Fallen Angel]

O.k folks.
Story sofar...
Got in touch with him using txt.
asked: If i ever asked would u go out with me?
Reply: Yeah babes, I would. Why?

Asked: would u plz?
Reply: Give me time 2 think.

So looks like the nerves are gonna have to stay put for now.
I'll just have to wait.
Should i??
hugs
leeann

[Tim]

Thanks for the update!!! Very cool that you did it!!
Now you can only wait.

[Fallen Angel]

UPDATE!!!
:cry: Looks like I waited too long.. he asked for time to think and so i gave him some time but he got back with his ex. who stays 20miles away on monday as i found out today.
Never mind.. he had a similar incident when he asked me to go on a night out but i couldnt go.
Turns out he was still with the girl when he asked but would have halted it if i had gone

Plenty more out there I hope!!!
Karin is angry at him though. his loss not mine.
Did u all have a nice christmas??
hugs
leeann

[CarolM]

Personally i wouldnt do all the running Leeann, :roll: but now he knows , :D maybe when or if they split up, :roll: he knows now so let him do the running next time hun. :D Hope this helps. :wink: as you say plenty more fish in the sea definatley his loss :wink:.Now its your turn Leeann treat them mean keep them keen. :lol: After all he was mean to you. :(

[Bigmomma]

if he is making a habit out of it maybe try and find someone who is more reliable and who doesn't go straight back to an ex?
i would feel sorry for his girlfriend as he sounds a bit like a player....
kezzina
just been informed by my daughter the correct term is twotimer/user...

[The Flying Mouse]

:twisted: Don't worry about him Leeann.
He might be a nice guy, but it sounds like he changes his mind more often than his underwear.
Which means he's either very fickle, or has very dodgy personal hygene :lol:
Just give it time and you'll find the right person.Usually when your least expecting it.

You'll also notice that you spend ages single, then when you finally do meet someone you get offers left right and centre :lol:

[Fallen Angel]

Thanks guys!!!! :D

[CarolM]

Your welcome hun. :wink:

[Fallen Angel]

OH NO!!!
Says hes split up with ex and wants out wif me what do i do??

[shadow1000001]

Just remember, He's obviously an ex for a reason and keep remembering that reason :twisted:

[scotty]

Get him drunk and take full advantage of the situation!!
:D
He might be a complete muppet when you finally get him one on one.

Have fun finding out anyway
xx

[sherrie87]

Fallen Angel says: Says hes split up with ex and wants out wif me what do i do??

My first instinct is to absolutely not go out with him- if he wasn't so nice to you before he's probably just killing time now. You don't want to be his "filler" girlfriend while he looks for the next one. I hope that I am wrong in my assessment of his motives, but thats the impression that I get from your earlier messages. Somewhere, there are decent guys around- you just have to find them! It could happen any time- when I was painfully single I always remembered the Stones line from "Gimme Shelter" : "Love/it's just a kiss away"- it's true: you could meet someone at the grocery store, or the post office, (in my case, at church) and BOOM- your whole life can change. But I do remember that it's no fun sorting though the rotten guys to find the gems!

Sherrie

[Lady B]

Get him drunk and take full advantage of the situation!!
:D
He might be a complete muppet when you finally get him one on one.

Have fun finding out anyway
xx

:lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

I'm sorry. I couldn't help but laugh at that one. Not that it's bad. It just tickled my funny bone. By my definition of "Going out" you're only going to date him not marry him. (Mydaughter's definition of "Going out" would be different.) Check him out but be wary. Don't get too involved yet and keep your head on straight. Like someone said earlier, he must be an ex for a reason. Keep it as friends for a while so you can acess whether you want it to go any farther. And don't forget . . .

WE'LL WANT DETAILS!!! :lol:

Lady b

[Gez]

Good advice from Scotty..........but remember to wear your most revealing undergarments. :wink:

Thats sure to impress your Prince :up:

[Fallen Angel]

By the looks of things it aint gonna happen...
UPDATE!!
sent him txt last night after nortons asking if hes still gonna go on the theatre trip 2morrow.
Got the txt that he sent me at 1am this mornin here it is:
Hey hun. Am goin on sunday. I cant go out wif u. Am 2 scared that if we brake up we wont be friends. It haz happened 2 me b 4. I am still always here 4 u. Dont hate me. Luv u so much. See ya sunday. Cm

Oh well, thats the way it goes same thing happened to me once as my x seriously just went a little 2 far with the stroppy kid attitude.
Plenty more guys out there!!!