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Originally Posted by suzieq
I respectfully disagree. For instance, I praise my kids when they do well.....it would serve no benefit to constructively criticize if they've achieved their goal. You got a 98% but if you studied harder you could have gotten 100%. That would borderline obsessive parenting and "pushing" too hard IMO.
Suzieq
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I think the problem is that although constructive
feedback is helpful, and I'm sure Meat (who is his own harshest critic) is open to this, as soon as some people use the phrase "constructive criticism" it becomes more criticism than feedback, and often takes over, so praise for what has gone well is lost.
Saying for eg that something "sucks" tends to hit the feelings hard .. so however "constructive" what follows may be, it's hard for the one on the receiving end to really hear it. And of course, often what follows a bald statement like that isn't constructive (ie helping to build from strengths in performance) but just concentrates on a list of shortcomings.
And as you say Suzie, so often negative feedback concentrates on a small part of overall performance and far less on all that was good. When I go to one of Meat's concerts does he miss the occasional note? Probably. Does he miss the occasional cue? I expect so. But what I notice is all the wonderful stuff that goes so very well, and that is always for me what I remember and what I comment on.
I do understand where PanicLord is coming from, and I sing from pretty much the same choir sheet
But I sense that this will follow the course it usually does when someone opens this debate ..
Caryl