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Originally Posted by Kathy
I agree with you, Mel. Unconditional support is just that: support. It doesn't mean you agree with everything they do, and neither does it mean they expect you to! Otherwise how would any of us get along with the people in our lives whom we love, since we are all individuals with our own beliefs and personalities? "Free-pass" - that's just not true; it's assuming the person you support does not think for themselves, but instead waits to see your reaction and bases their future actions on that! I don't think that happens very often, and certainly not here with Meat, LOL! He's his own man :)
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So, to take some completely separate examples, you don't think that the partners, friends and family of an alcoholic/drug addict giving unconditional support would make that person less likely to feel the need to change if they didn't face any consequences for their behaviour?
You don't think that in the cases of abusive relationships, if a partner tolerates their abuse and continues to be supportive, it will continue?
And to bring us back to Earth, you don't think if you continue to offer unconditional support to someone who talks to you/your fellow board members like they're a piece of crap on his shoe, that he'll likely do it again?
'"Free-pass" - that's just not true; it's assuming the person you support does not think for themselves, but instead waits to see your reaction and bases their future actions on that!'
So you think that someone who tells a group of people to go to hell and go ~~~~ themselves doesn't care about what reaction he gets?