07 Dec 2003, 16:49
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Mega Loafer
Join Date: 26.04.2003
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Originally Posted by CarylB
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and then, imo, we are back to personal opinion and interpretation, like I said in my earlier post, each of us will see this in different places, and not necessarily the same place
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And that's so true. Who's to say if someone says for eg that they "refuse to dumb down their post for anyone" they are being patronising, "holier than thou" or merely expressing something they feel strongly? I may blink .. but I don't take that as abuse or intentional bullying.
But if someone says "you're talking bollocks!" or "talking crap", or calls me, or anyone, names for expressing their opinion, I think they cross a line .. a line of courtesy certainly, and in the case of name calling the line that separates debate and verbal abuse. When it's consistently applied to one or two persons, even when they express a similar opinion to others, that's imo bullying |
Just because its said as "you're talking bollocks" or "you're talking crap" doesn't it in my opinion make it any worse than "the sugar coated" versions. Putting people down for their opinions without name calling and by carefully chosing your words, so it doesnt look so bad ( but seems a lot can still see past that) doesn't make it ok.
Deb
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