but a well worn pattern was becoming established .. one person would rush in and hurl an epithet or two .. this would then be jumped on by the others .. someone would comment, if not me, and things would escalate and hey presto .. the thread would be locked or moved to Fight Club. And as others have pointed out, it creates an atmosphere where others are discouraged, lest they become the next target; where for someone to agree with me means they may be dismissed as my "cronies" or "sycophant friends";
Really don't like to drag this on, but I do feel that people are all trying to make their point on all sides and being afraid to actually say what they really feel. So they are sort of hinting at it, but the words don't actually come out if you know what I mean, this in itself leads to confusion. Anyway my point here is, that (and i'm really saying this in the nicest way posssible ) I don't agree with the bad abuse you or anyone have got, (as I said before one of these people has gave me my fair share of that abuse in emails after posting something here a while back, totally unrelated to any of this. ) but I do feel that sometimes you provoke the worst in people with your comments to them when they post. Hope you don't take that the worng way but thats how i;'m seeing it. Not that I agree with the verabl abuse, but I do see sometimes where people are coming from. So as I see what you're saying, there is another side to it all and i'd pretty much throw myself out on a limb to say this is how a lot feel. They just don't want to get abuse for saying it.
[/b]Just there is a point where I prefer to confront an issue rather than avoid or tolerate it, and I certainly wouldn't leave a forum because of it, not as long as there are many people there I like and respect The phrase "silent majority" has been used in this thread. I find it hard to believe that the majority of people here would think name calling was acceptable, nor targeting one or two people for its repeated use.
Same here, seeing people talk it in circles for days and getting know where fast trying to say how they feel but it not quite working, has made me speak up. And the phrase "silent majority" arent saying its ok for the name calling. But i'm sure they do feel the same as me. This isn't just about the name calling, we all accept thats wrong, it's the other points people are trying to make and they're just getting disregarded to bring back the abuse issue.
Hope everyone takes this in the calm, rational way I wrote it. It wasn't meant in anyway to get at anyone.way. Just trying to make things clearer from the "silent majorities" point of view :)
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