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I believe its better to mince your words (in an unbiased way) so as not to offend the person youre talking to instead of just hitting them with insults and profanities, it also makes for a more readable forum, that way you can disagree with someone without taking the 'I'm right you're wrong' stance.
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I agree completely. It's not sugar coating, just courteously trying to confront the issue rather than the person :)
Deb wrote that in her view I sometimes:
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.... provoke the worst in people with your comments to them when they post. Hope you don't take that the worng way but thats how i;'m seeing it. Not that I agree with the verabl abuse, but I do see sometimes where people are coming from. So as I see what you're saying, there is another side to it all and i'd pretty much throw myself out on a limb to say this is how a lot feel. They just don't want to get abuse for saying it.
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I'm not I hope taking this the wrong way. I would like to respond with a couple of points. As I've said my posts are not intended as patronising or "holier than thou". I speak when I have something to say, I write with conviction and articulately. I write with most conviction when Meat is being sniped at, or when I or others are being attacked. When people speak against me, my opinions or beliefs they do not get verbal abuse from me. That's not my way, and I don't believe I have set any example which should lead anyone to fear that. When I have been talked down to in this forum it has not provoked "the worst" in me, although I might well respond tongue in cheek! I have disagreed with you on a number of points, but I believe I have done this with courtesy, with clear language, without patronising you, and without resorting to abuse. And if I use clear language, but choose it carefully so as not to give you cause for feeling offence, it is done simply and honestly for just that reason, not to "have a dig" at you without saying what I really mean, or to put you down :).
You say you agree about verbal abuse, and those who have been doing this have imo done so for their own agenda and one which has little excuse of "provocation" .. as many have observed, this is a Meat Loaf fansite, and to be hypercritical of him or snipe at him here is to expect some form of response from those of us who come here first and foremost as afficionados of Meat, and who have seen his distress at what he described as "putdowns, Lies and just plan being angry over what I don't know". As to the "silent majority", I don't believe I've ever said "You're wrong!" just posted my own view as articulately as I can, saying that it's my belief or my view.