Fallen angel needs help once again!!!!!!!!!!

Fallen Angel · 02 Jan 2004, 21:05

O.k Folks Really sorry to do this but heres another depressing topic

* Why in a million years does my ex. keep annoying me,saying sorry and after a few weeks ask me out??

I know i was stupid the last time as i was goin through a rough patch. But the boy worries me. First time i agreed a quiet place and some soppy lecture about me led to him asking for something from me that i really didnt wanna give so he walked off. to xplain: "A kiss is a terrible thing to waste"!!
He scares me as i know he aint for me but am stupid enough to fall for him again. Part of reason 4 being called F.A.

Also, what is is about me that makes folks younger than me ask me out?

I gotta find someone soon but dunno how Help!!!

Rob The Badger · 02 Jan 2004, 23:33

Men suck. . .

Lauren · 03 Jan 2004, 00:11

Sorry to say it f.a. but it sounds like the reason he keeps coming back is precisely because you keep falling for him again i.e. he knows he can get what he wants. The one thing i found with my ex is that every time i give him proof i'm getting on with my life (and enjoying it more without him) he can't deal and starts saying he loves me etc etc. I can't tell him to get lost completely because we have a little girl so i owe it to her to stay as friendly as poss. I would say to you that if you don't trust yourself not to fall for him again then stay away completely. Plus being on your own isn't a crime, it can be quite an eye-opener and help establish who you are and what you want,
And badger - i agree that some do, not all
Sorry for the ramble but hope it helps

shadow1000001 · 03 Jan 2004, 01:41

Hi F.A.
Lauren is right. Once he realizes that you can go on without him, he will eventually leave you alone.
As for younger guys asking you out, what is wrong with that

Maria

Lauren · 03 Jan 2004, 01:45

Age is a state of mind, I know guys 10+ years younger than me that are far more mature than some guys 10+ years older!

Tim · 03 Jan 2004, 01:56

Well, i am a man, you know that he hahaha.

To be honest, when my first girlfriend broke up i was a bit like you described. Keep anoying her, etc. Cause it is hard. But it will go away.... he stops in a while. (but that can last for ever, for you feeling then he...)

My advice... don't react, don't give him any attention, don't give him the idea that you care for him, have a pitty for him, etc.

Go on with your life, he will find his back in a while.

The Butcher.

angel eyes · 03 Jan 2004, 04:52

I think you probably feel that you need someone in your life and when your ex pesters you you think of the good times you had and give it another try. In your heart you know he is not right for you.

The best thing, I think, for you to do is to spend time with your self. Be comfortable with yourself and enjoy your own company. Take up new hobbies, do things you always wanted to do. Learn to love yourself and when you are not looking and you least expect someone will come along.

Take care

Love
Angelxxx

Fallen Angel · 03 Jan 2004, 13:34

Thank you!!
Younger guys? I dunno what the problem is just me i suppose.

Rob The Badger · 03 Jan 2004, 13:48

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Originally Posted by Fallen Angel

Thank you!!
Younger guys? I dunno what the problem is just me i suppose.

What is it withg teenage girls and the age thing. . .I knew a girl who once told me she would'nt date a guy even if he was one day younger than her. . .and she wasn't kidding. . .you girls weird me out sometimes. . . :)

Skeleton · 03 Jan 2004, 14:45

Boys in my age (19) are so childish. They think only how to get laid. That´s why I don´t have yet dating with anyone. There´s been a few boys but they are always with someone or they are only interested to be my friends. Or they are horrifed ´bout my size. I´m 5 foot 2 tall and my weight is somethig 190 pounds. But it´s a muscels. Maybe they think that I´m gonna kick them asses. I hit some boy at school (in 1999) But it was his own foult: he bullied me.

Rob The Badger · 03 Jan 2004, 15:13

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Originally Posted by Skeleton

Boys in my age (19) are so childish. They think only how to get laid. That´s why I don´t have yet dating with anyone. There´s been a few boys but they are always with someone or they are only interested to be my friends. Or they are horrifed ´bout my size. I´m 5 foot 2 tall and my weight is somethig 190 pounds. But it´s a muscels. Maybe they think that I´m gonna kick them asses. I hit some boy at school (in 1999) But it was his own foult: he bullied me.

I hate being assosciated with lad culture. . .just because of my gender. . .

Bigmomma · 04 Jan 2004, 00:28

i know what you mean about the age gap, at your age anyway, you get called cradle snatcher and things like that, but as you get older the agegap grows less obvious, indeed my hubby is seven years younger than me and a lot of people think he is older !
hope this helps you to know teenage problems do grow less and finally disapear, even though it sometimes seems like a whole lifetime.....
goodluck, and takecare.
kezzina

sherrie87 · 05 Jan 2004, 05:30

Rob the Badger said:

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you girls weird me out sometimes. . .

Yes, without a doubt, Rob- women are confusing, complex and completely illogical creatures at times. Which is why when I was expecting a child I was SO wanting a boy- much "lower maintenance". I got my boy (after two ultrasounds saying that he was a girl!), only to find that he is, um...confusing, complex and completely illogical at times!

No, seriously I think women get the weirdness going at about 13 and it never ever stops. (I don't think so- I'm 34 and my husband can attest that it hasn't stopped for me! :P )

Sherrie

shadow1000001 · 05 Jan 2004, 06:17

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Originally Posted by sherrie87

Rob the Badger said:

Quote:

you girls weird me out sometimes. . .

No, seriously I think women get the weirdness going at about 13 and it never ever stops. (I don't think so- I'm 34 and my husband can attest that it hasn't stopped for me! :P )

Sherrie

Sorry to disappoint you Sherrie but the weirdness starts earlier than 13. It starts around 10. That's how old my daughter is

Now my husband has 2 of me to deal with

Maria

plukie · 05 Jan 2004, 12:23

[quote="Fallen Angel"]Thank you!!
Younger guys? I dunno what the problem is just me i suppose.[/quote

There is nothing wrong the the guy being younger than you. I agree with Bigmomma, in your teens it does make a difference but as you get older, what the hell, Plymboy is 19 years younger than me and we have been together for the last five years, laughing everyday. If you don't want to see this lad, then tell him, don't keep him on a string, which is what you are doing at the moment. He clicks his fingers and you go running, just say no and mean it. It will be hard, especially if you still like him, but worth it in the end, you will have your freedom back and hey, who knows, you might even settle for a younger man in the end

kaz · 06 Jan 2004, 11:30

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rob The Badger

Quote:

Originally Posted by Skeleton

Boys in my age (19) are so childish. They think only how to get laid. That´s why I don´t have yet dating with anyone. There´s been a few boys but they are always with someone or they are only interested to be my friends. Or they are horrifed ´bout my size. I´m 5 foot 2 tall and my weight is somethig 190 pounds. But it´s a muscels. Maybe they think that I´m gonna kick them asses. I hit some boy at school (in 1999) But it was his own foult: he bullied me.

I hate being assosciated with lad culture. . .just because of my gender. . .

hey, don't worry about it- any1 who knows you won't group you with those idiots that do make up the lad culture. unfortunately i have two brothers, 1s kind and considerate the other is the opitamy (is that even spelt right?) of the lad culture and he drives me insane with his attitude.

i don't care about dating a younger lad as long as their attitude isn't childish, most times though its the older lads that i fall for- no idea why though

02 Jan 2004, 21:05	#1
Fallen Angel Youth Gone Wild Join Date: 19.09.2003 Location: See the mad one over there.... Posts: 693	Fallen angel needs help once again!!!!!!!!!! O.k Folks Really sorry to do this but heres another depressing topic * Why in a million years does my ex. keep annoying me,saying sorry and after a few weeks ask me out?? I know i was stupid the last time as i was goin through a rough patch. But the boy worries me. First time i agreed a quiet place and some soppy lecture about me led to him asking for something from me that i really didnt wanna give so he walked off. to xplain: "A kiss is a terrible thing to waste"!! He scares me as i know he aint for me but am stupid enough to fall for him again. Part of reason 4 being called F.A. Also, what is is about me that makes folks younger than me ask me out? I gotta find someone soon but dunno how Help!!!

02 Jan 2004, 23:33	#2
Rob The Badger Too sexy for this post Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 2,895	Men suck. . .

03 Jan 2004, 00:11	#3
Lauren Super Loafer Join Date: 19.11.2003 Location: Rotherham, UK Posts: 224	Sorry to say it f.a. but it sounds like the reason he keeps coming back is precisely because you keep falling for him again i.e. he knows he can get what he wants. The one thing i found with my ex is that every time i give him proof i'm getting on with my life (and enjoying it more without him) he can't deal and starts saying he loves me etc etc. I can't tell him to get lost completely because we have a little girl so i owe it to her to stay as friendly as poss. I would say to you that if you don't trust yourself not to fall for him again then stay away completely. Plus being on your own isn't a crime, it can be quite an eye-opener and help establish who you are and what you want, And badger - i agree that some do, not all Sorry for the ramble but hope it helps

03 Jan 2004, 01:41	#4
shadow1000001 Mega Loafer Join Date: 10.07.2003 Location: Red Deer, Alberta, Canada Posts: 2,580	Hi F.A. Lauren is right. Once he realizes that you can go on without him, he will eventually leave you alone. As for younger guys asking you out, what is wrong with that Maria

03 Jan 2004, 01:45	#5
Lauren Super Loafer Join Date: 19.11.2003 Location: Rotherham, UK Posts: 224	Age is a state of mind, I know guys 10+ years younger than me that are far more mature than some guys 10+ years older!

03 Jan 2004, 01:56	#6
Tim The Butcher Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Westervoort, The Netherlands Posts: 10,321	Well, i am a man, you know that he hahaha. To be honest, when my first girlfriend broke up i was a bit like you described. Keep anoying her, etc. Cause it is hard. But it will go away.... he stops in a while. (but that can last for ever, for you feeling then he...) My advice... don't react, don't give him any attention, don't give him the idea that you care for him, have a pitty for him, etc. Go on with your life, he will find his back in a while. The Butcher.

03 Jan 2004, 04:52	#7
angel eyes Senior Loafer Join Date: 18.11.2003 Location: North East Posts: 183	I think you probably feel that you need someone in your life and when your ex pesters you you think of the good times you had and give it another try. In your heart you know he is not right for you. The best thing, I think, for you to do is to spend time with your self. Be comfortable with yourself and enjoy your own company. Take up new hobbies, do things you always wanted to do. Learn to love yourself and when you are not looking and you least expect someone will come along. Take care Love Angelxxx

03 Jan 2004, 13:34	#8
Fallen Angel Youth Gone Wild Join Date: 19.09.2003 Location: See the mad one over there.... Posts: 693	Thank you!! Younger guys? I dunno what the problem is just me i suppose.

03 Jan 2004, 14:45	#10
Skeleton Mega Loafer Join Date: 13.10.2003 Location: Grinning, Ducking & Running Posts: 3,668	Boys in my age (19) are so childish. They think only how to get laid. That´s why I don´t have yet dating with anyone. There´s been a few boys but they are always with someone or they are only interested to be my friends. Or they are horrifed ´bout my size. I´m 5 foot 2 tall and my weight is somethig 190 pounds. But it´s a muscels. Maybe they think that I´m gonna kick them asses. I hit some boy at school (in 1999) But it was his own foult: he bullied me.

04 Jan 2004, 00:28	#12
Bigmomma Super Loafer Join Date: 07.07.2003 Location: Somewhere in time in my mind......... Posts: 655	i know what you mean about the age gap, at your age anyway, you get called cradle snatcher and things like that, but as you get older the agegap grows less obvious, indeed my hubby is seven years younger than me and a lot of people think he is older ! hope this helps you to know teenage problems do grow less and finally disapear, even though it sometimes seems like a whole lifetime..... goodluck, and takecare. kezzina

05 Jan 2004, 12:23	#15
plukie Senior Loafer Join Date: 18.07.2003 Location: Plymouth, Devon Posts: 199	[quote="Fallen Angel"]Thank you!! Younger guys? I dunno what the problem is just me i suppose.[/quote There is nothing wrong the the guy being younger than you. I agree with Bigmomma, in your teens it does make a difference but as you get older, what the hell, Plymboy is 19 years younger than me and we have been together for the last five years, laughing everyday. If you don't want to see this lad, then tell him, don't keep him on a string, which is what you are doing at the moment. He clicks his fingers and you go running, just say no and mean it. It will be hard, especially if you still like him, but worth it in the end, you will have your freedom back and hey, who knows, you might even settle for a younger man in the end