WTF am i meant to do???

Fallen Angel · 13 Apr 2005, 20:41

hiya
I found a baby scan of mums from 2000..i knew fk all about it: only god knows what happened to the kid. i aint getting on at all with my folks either so i cant ask about the baby.
Before you ask: i cant talk to my mum at all!!
they've started their getting me out of the house stuff again.
what am i meant to do?
hugs
leeann

Rob The Badger · 13 Apr 2005, 21:10

Calm down, five years is a long time ago.
Water under the bridge.

Tim · 13 Apr 2005, 21:46

Hi FA. Understand that you are upset... but try to stay calm. The last thing that you must do is to panic or get angry. If you can't talk to your mum, maybe there are other persons who can tell you more about that pic. There are different ways to Rome... So stay calm and don't get upset... You will not get far with that. I know. Take care.

The Butcher.

Heli · 13 Apr 2005, 23:05

Ring child line and explain. They'll help immensely

airhead · 14 Apr 2005, 14:40

Aw, dont worry hun, ask someone else about it. Maybe she lost the baby and didn't know if you could handle it. My dad kept my sister molly a secret from me until the first scan in case Jo had a miscarriage. Maybe the child had something wrong with it and your mum miscarried, and your mum thought it was best to keep it from you.

Ring the samaritans or childline. (childline 0800 800 800) and i promise, THEY WILL HELP.

Ageing Bat · 15 Apr 2005, 00:08

I've thought about this thread a lot today. By all means, speak to Childline etc. However, please remember to respect your mum's feelings too. I'm a little puzzled as to how you discovered the picture. There are most likely personal, private things I don't know about my mum. Likewise, my teenagers don't know everything about my past. I don't want them to know, because it really is none of their business. For a mother to loose her child, either for medical or personal reasons, at whatever stage of the pregnancy or birth, is a terrible, painful loss, far greater than the loss you feel now. It's not easy for a woman who has suffered such a loss to talk about it either at the time, or for years afterwards.... if at all. Your mum had, and still has her own reason for not speaking to you about it. Please respect and show compassion to her for that.

I'm sorry if you don't like my reply, but I think it is important that you see this from a different angle if you can. Please don't be angry with your mum about this - she made the decision not to speak to you because it was the right thing for her to do at the time.

Fallen Angel · 15 Apr 2005, 11:53

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ageing Bat

I've thought about this thread a lot today. By all means, speak to Childline etc. However, please remember to respect your mum's feelings too. I'm a little puzzled as to how you discovered the picture. There are most likely personal, private things I don't know about my mum. Likewise, my teenagers don't know everything about my past. I don't want them to know, because it really is none of their business. For a mother to loose her child, either for medical or personal reasons, at whatever stage of the pregnancy or birth, is a terrible, painful loss, far greater than the loss you feel now. It's not easy for a woman who has suffered such a loss to talk about it either at the time, or for years afterwards.... if at all. Your mum had, and still has her own reason for not speaking to you about it. Please respect and show compassion to her for that.

I'm sorry if you don't like my reply, but I think it is important that you see this from a different angle if you can. Please don't be angry with your mum about this - she made the decision not to speak to you because it was the right thing for her to do at the time.

Hi
First things first: Ageing Bat i understand where your coming from and by all means i do actually like the reply you posted. i found it while lookingat my baby pics in the photo album.
i was more upset than angry and ive calmed down now that i talked to someone who has stood by me since she knew me. i think ill just forget about it and get o with my life rather than try n ask mum.
thank you..everybody.
hugs
leeann

airhead · 15 Apr 2005, 22:33

Erm, woopsie, i gave you for some loan company

It's actually 0800 1111 honest and for truely!

13 Apr 2005, 20:41	#1
Fallen Angel Youth Gone Wild Join Date: 19.09.2003 Location: See the mad one over there.... Posts: 693	WTF am i meant to do??? hiya I found a baby scan of mums from 2000..i knew fk all about it: only god knows what happened to the kid. i aint getting on at all with my folks either so i cant ask about the baby. Before you ask: i cant talk to my mum at all!! they've started their getting me out of the house stuff again. what am i meant to do? hugs leeann

13 Apr 2005, 21:10	#2
Rob The Badger Too sexy for this post Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 2,895	Calm down, five years is a long time ago. Water under the bridge.

13 Apr 2005, 21:46	#3
Tim The Butcher Join Date: 14.04.2002 Location: Westervoort, The Netherlands Posts: 10,321	Hi FA. Understand that you are upset... but try to stay calm. The last thing that you must do is to panic or get angry. If you can't talk to your mum, maybe there are other persons who can tell you more about that pic. There are different ways to Rome... So stay calm and don't get upset... You will not get far with that. I know. Take care. The Butcher.

13 Apr 2005, 23:05	#4
Heli Daddy's little internet junkie Join Date: 29.01.2004 Location: Grimsby Posts: 4,596	Ring child line and explain. They'll help immensely

14 Apr 2005, 14:40	#5
airhead the enchanted spleen Join Date: 12.02.2004 Location: ok, you see that sweet little cottage? I live next door in the nuthouse. Posts: 1,909	Aw, dont worry hun, ask someone else about it. Maybe she lost the baby and didn't know if you could handle it. My dad kept my sister molly a secret from me until the first scan in case Jo had a miscarriage. Maybe the child had something wrong with it and your mum miscarried, and your mum thought it was best to keep it from you. Ring the samaritans or childline. (childline 0800 800 800) and i promise, THEY WILL HELP.

15 Apr 2005, 00:08	#6
Ageing Bat Young at heart. Slightly older in other places. Join Date: 20.11.2003 Location: Here! Posts: 1,311	I've thought about this thread a lot today. By all means, speak to Childline etc. However, please remember to respect your mum's feelings too. I'm a little puzzled as to how you discovered the picture. There are most likely personal, private things I don't know about my mum. Likewise, my teenagers don't know everything about my past. I don't want them to know, because it really is none of their business. For a mother to loose her child, either for medical or personal reasons, at whatever stage of the pregnancy or birth, is a terrible, painful loss, far greater than the loss you feel now. It's not easy for a woman who has suffered such a loss to talk about it either at the time, or for years afterwards.... if at all. Your mum had, and still has her own reason for not speaking to you about it. Please respect and show compassion to her for that. I'm sorry if you don't like my reply, but I think it is important that you see this from a different angle if you can. Please don't be angry with your mum about this - she made the decision not to speak to you because it was the right thing for her to do at the time.

15 Apr 2005, 22:33	#8
airhead the enchanted spleen Join Date: 12.02.2004 Location: ok, you see that sweet little cottage? I live next door in the nuthouse. Posts: 1,909	Erm, woopsie, i gave you for some loan company It's actually 0800 1111 honest and for truely!